Or, When Your Man Has an Affair With His Left Hand…
This is the first installment of a serialized article by Militant Ginger – rolandhulme.blogspot.com.
Let’s be brutally honest about sex and pregnancy. For most men, their partner’s curvy ‘pregnancy’ body is wildly sexy and beautiful. There’s something sensual and uninhibited about making love to a pregnant woman and many men remember ‘pregnant sex’ as some of the best of their relationship.
But pregnancy is also very disruptive to a ‘regular’ sex life- when one partner’s ‘in the mood’ the other sometimes isn’t. Women can feel exhausted or self-conscious, while men can find the whole pregnancy thing unsettling. Nothing wilts an erection faster than feeling a baby give a disgruntled kick mid-coitus! The fact is, there are plenty of occasions during a nine-month pregnancy when a man is left sexually frustrated; even more following the birth, when doctors recommend a six-week break before Mom can resume sexual activity.
Now, I’ve read dozens of articles about how pregnancy affects a couple’s sex life – but none of them have been brave enough to address one topic: discovering their partner masturbating. Nobody ever discusses this rather embarrassing topic, which means many women are horrified when they find their husband or boyfriend ‘taking care of business’ without them.
Pregnancy is an emotional enough experience already! Finding out that a husband masturbates in secret leads most women to worry that they no longer find them attractive – or that it is a precursor to them satisfying their sexual needs elsewhere. But wives and girlfriends don’t need to worry. All husbands and boyfriends masturbate occasionally – especially when a couple’s sex life undergoes the upheaval of pregnancy. It is very common, people just never talk about it. That’s where the problems start. It’s time to address this problem head on and learn more from a male perspective.